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Ahhh....the post we've all been waiting for!! Commentary on date #1! Before we get down to the nitty gritty let's set the scene and go over my date check list from Week #1's Buru, Dr. Phil from "Love Smart: Find the One You Want, Fix the One You Got":

The Scene
A cute and intimate bar in Los Feliz (it took me longer than I anticipated to get to the place as it is a new part of town for me and traffic was a bitch so unfortunately I committed a dating faux paus..I was 15 minutes late...ouch!). I called my date en route, apologized profusely and hauled ass to get there!

My date...who I will refer to as 'Mr. Windy City' was sitting at the bar patiently waiting for my arrival. The bar had a decent amount of people but I immediately recognized him from his picture. I was actually surprised as he pretty much looked just like his picture BUT he was also already sitting down at the bar so for a moment I had a flashback of the Sex and The City episode where Samantha meets the guy sitting at the bar, accepts a date with him and when they get up to leave he turns out being 5' feet tall! Y'all....remember that one right?? Well I breathed a small sigh of relief on the inside as he stood up to greet me because in the online world of dating I have found that the following equation tends to hold true: Height from Online Profile less 3 to 4 inches equals actual height of said date, example: match profile reads 6'0 actual height in person 5'7..so true, so true, so true!

Date Prep from Buru #1, Love Smart by Dr. Phil
1 Knowing My Audience:
The audience i.e. "Mr. Windy City" as I like to call him since he spent a lot of time telling me about where he is originally from, Chicago, hence his the moniker Mr. Windy City. I prepared myself by skimming his profile just to get the major points. Mr. WC is 43, looking for a serious relationship, enjoys outdoor activities like hiking and cycling, baseball games and is interested in a woman that can enjoy life's "simple" pleasures...hmm..should have asked him if an afternoon at Barney's New York qualifies as a "simple pleasure" in his book.

2 Knowing My Opening Questions
Since I had a decent idea of my audience coming up with a few questions wasn't too difficult..so the conversation went on like a decent match of tennis...question, answer, serve, question, answer, serve..think you get the point. Oh and Dr. Phil also points out that I should give him ample attention since most folks love hearing about themselves and I quote, "If you spend the whole time talking about yourself, not only will you bore him but it may seem that you're trying way too hard to sell yourself"...really Dr. Phil? I think a nice balance is better but hmmm.. who's the single one in this situation? ME. Think I did a good job of giving just enough about me while managing to make him think it was all about him!

3 Know My Star Power
So Dr. Phil says that the secret to star quality is that it is not about hogging the spotlight and the more generous you are about making other people feel like stars, the more star quality you yourself will possess. I see where Phil was going with this one but on the contrary I thought this tip was filled with a little more BS than the others tips.

4 Know My Sound Bite
If you ask anyone that knows me well I am pretty good at knowing what my sound bite is...not sure what a "sound bite" is..well let me explain it to you. A sound bite is like having an arsenal of great "ammunition" to share about yourself. Something that's positive, upbeat, makes you smile and ultimately makes you more attractive to the opposite sex (or same..no judgments here...NO PROP 8!). No matter what happens to be going on in my life you would often never know out as my "sound bite" tends to be pretty positive and so this is exactly what Mr. Windy City was getting last evening.

5 Know My Fillers
Fillers....these are handful of things (Dr. Phil says you should have 5) that you can always fall back and talk about with anyone with comfort, ease, and confidence. It could be current events, news, politics (although I don't recommend talking about that on a first date...especially if he's an Republican), travelling, hobbies etc..basically a filler is something that you can shoot the sh*t about so as to avoid awkward moments of silence (which I experienced a few last night...so I excused myself to go the ladies room!).

Overall it was a decent date but no sparks :( and oh one more thing the only thing that turned me off about this guy was the fact that he disclosed to me that he has a roommate. Now before you start bashing on me, I can get with a guy having a roommate up to a certain age but I think once you pass the 4-0 finish line I just happen to have an issue with it so there..hate me or not just being real people! At the end of the day I followed all of the big "Do's and Don'ts" of dating...made eye contact, asked questions, was a good listener, blah..blah..blah but alas no love connection..I guess Rome wasn't built in a day so on to the next.....

Stay tuned folks because Date #3 is on deck....yes, you read correctly #3...had a little coffee date tonight (Wednesday) will give more details of bachelor #2 tomorrow as a girl needs her beauty rest!